From Nina Power’s What Do Men Want? pg 146:
If we instead conceive of time not as a purchase against the future in which the other is a kind of investment, but rather as a perpetual and joyful present, we might start to understand and love each other better. Think of a relationship with someone you love where you did not know for sure if you would see them again the next day. Imagine what a heightened mode of being together this would induce. No more taking the other for granted, treating them as if they were simply some sort of warm body-pillow to watch TV with, but rather a unique, poetic and strange person whom one happens to find oneself next to. What a magical way of relating this would be! If we did not regard each other as comfort animals, but rather as companions in the infinite, life would be so much more extraordinary.
(there’s much I don’t agree with in the book but I thought this was beautifully put)
