From Thoughts Without a Thinker by Mark Epstein pg 200-201:
The psychoanalyst Hans Loewald wrote of transforming the ghosts that haunt patients into ancestors, through tasting what he called the “blood of recognition” in the relationship with the therapist. He asserted that the ghosts must be led out of the unconscious, reawakened through the intensity of the therapeutic relationship, and then laid to rest, relegated to history, thus allowing the person more flexibility and intensity in present relations. In a similar vein, the British psychoanalyst Michael Balint, in his discussion of the basic fault, wrote of helping the patient change “violent resentment into regret” helping her to come to terms with the scarring that has been established in her psyche. Implicit in these widely cited analogies is the recognition that the difficult emotions generated by the original deficiencies do not actually go away; they may be enshrined on a shelf above the doorway in a Confucian home, but they must be afforded great respect.
